Saturday

When it is Saturday we tend to be at our relaxing mode. The most importantly we have to remember it's a weekend for our life here in this world tapi akhirat kena jaga... I get lazy during weekend but that does not mean I have to forget about zohor, asar and isyak. Yup maghrib tu selalu diingati tapi zohor asar isyak tu selalu terlepas.".. Go figure.

Reminder for us but yes…. as usual we forgot..

I pace for about 20 minutes trying to think what topic that I want to challenge myself with this time. It must be something that is worth sharing.  Well zip zilch nothing....

Than going thru Facebook... saw my old school and the pictures that are posted. What a time. To be in a missionary school and to say Good morning to the brothers and Brother Director (my time was Brother Ultan Paul [from England] and Brother Vincent [from Ireland] ).  We are always proud of the school and the school’s motto Ques Ut Deus  and Signum Fidei etc etc ... everything was in Latin. We have brothers who are very strict but most are with patience with our mischiefs.  Thinking about it yup... it was the “wonder years”.

Then all grown up it was the working environment,  marriage etc.... and the rest is history as the saying goes. There are few matters which I would have done differently especially during my younger days.. but now that I am that age, I don’t think it would help to cry over something which I can’t rewind..dah tak dapat nak tolong dah...

So now you look seriously on the growth of your children to make sure that your kids will not repeat mistakes that you’ve made in the future. I was talking to my Ustaz today morning and I told him that whatever happen to us is always for the best because at times mistakes or sins that we’ve committed is to educate us and to make us a better person.  Perkara ini Allah SWT dah sebut dalam surah Al-Baqarah (recited in Al Baqarah about this issues).

To Allah belongs whatever is in the heavens and whatever is in the earth. Whether you show what is within yourselves or conceal it, Allah will bring you to account for it. Then He will forgive whom He wills and punish whom He wills, and Allah is over all things competent. 2:284

The Messenger has believed in what was revealed to him from his Lord, and [so have] the believers. All of them have believed in Allah and His angels and His books and His messengers, [saying], "We make no distinction between any of His messengers." And they say, "We hear and we obey. [We seek] Your forgiveness, our Lord, and to You is the [final] destination." 2:285

Allah does not charge a soul except [with that within] its capacity. It will have [the consequence of] what [good] it has gained, and it will bear [the consequence of] what [evil] it has earned. "Our Lord, do not impose blame upon us if we have forgotten or erred. Our Lord, and lay not upon us a burden like that which You laid upon those before us. Our Lord, and burden us not with that which we have no ability to bear. And pardon us; and forgive us; and have mercy upon us. You are our protector, so give us victory over the disbelieving people." 2:286

When I look at the verses above, I realized that the problem with all of us is that we never refer to the Quran where Allah SWT has reminded us time and time again about what we have gone through... We never take time to understand and to learn.  The above is like an appeal to Allah SWT that we seek Allah SWT’s help in guiding us to the right path. Allah SWT even teaches how to Doa (dua) to Allah SWT. How much Allah SWT loves us? With everything we did Allah still forgives us and gives us stern reminder that don’t do the things which is forbidden to escape from Allah SWT wrath.

You compile all the information and submit and remind your children the beauty of Allah SWT.

Dan dirikanlah oleh kamu akan solat dan tunaikanlah zakat dan apa jua yang kamu dahulukan dari kebaikan untuk diri kamu, tentulah kamu akan mendapat balasan pahalanya di sisi Allah. Sesungguhnya Allah sentiasa Melihat segala yang kamu kerjakan. Surah AlBaqarah. Ayat 110.

Sesungguhnya orang-orang yang beriman dan orang-orang yang berhijrah serta berjuang pada jalan Allah (untuk menegakkan agama Islam), mereka itulah orang-orang yang mengharapkan rahmat Allah dan (ingatlah), Allah Maha Pengampun, lagi Maha Mengasihani. Surah AlBaqarah. Ayat 218.

What has not Allah SWT done for us but to ask to submit and remind us the things that we can do to get closer to Allah SWT and be a good Muslim.

Apa jua kebaikan (nikmat kesenangan) yang engkau dapati maka ia adalah dari Allah dan apa jua bencana yang menimpamu maka ia adalah dari (kesalahan) dirimu sendiri dan Kami telah mengutus engkau (wahai Muhammad) kepada seluruh umat manusia sebagai seorang Rasul (yang membawa rahmat) dan cukuplah Allah menjadi saksi (yang membuktikan kebenaran hakikat ini). Surah AnNisaa'. Ayat 079.

Dialah ( Allah) yang menciptakan kamu semua dari (hakikat) diri yang satu dan Dia mengadakan daripada hakikat itu pasangannya (diri suami isteri), untuk bersenang-senang (bertenang tenteram) satu diri kepada yang lain. Ketika suami mencampuri isterinya, mengandunglah dia dengan kandungan yang ringan, serta teruslah dia dengan keadaan itu (ke suatu waktu). Kemudian ketika dia merasa berat (dan menaruh bimbang) berdoalah suami isteri itu kepada Tuhan mereka (dengan berkata): Sesungguhnya jika Engkau (wahai Tuhan kami) mengurniakan kami nikmat yang baik, tentulah kami menjadi orang-orang yang bersyukur. Surah AlA’raaf. Ayat 189

Katakanlah (wahai Muhammad): Sesungguhnya Tuhanku memewahkan rezeki bagi sesiapa yang dikehendakiNya dan Dia juga yang menyempitkan (bagi sesiapa yang dikehendakiNya); akan tetapi kebanyakan manusia tidak mengetahui (hakikat itu).  Surah Saba'. Ayat 036.

Allah SWT reminds us that Allah SWT gives us everything from riches to poor. Gave us our wives.. Teaches us how to take care of our wives the do’s and don’t ‘s with our wives etc. In the holy Quran everything is from Allah SWT but yet we fail to read his advice to us. How come we still let our lust takes control. We defy everything just because we fail to see the messages that Allah SWT puts into the Holy Quran.

There is nothing more passionate than the words in the Holy Quran. It gives this very soothing feeling just listening to someone reciting the Quran. If you read the Quran it gives you an endless journey through the information gateway to Allah SWT. I implore you to read and the Holy Quran and use the Quran and Hadith to educate your Family as the guidelines is presented systematically in the Quran.

There is this doa we recite before we read the Holy Quran... remember it and May Allah SWT gives you what you ask.

Ya Allah ya Tuhan kami, Engkau menurunkannya (Al-Quran) dengan kebenaran dan ia (Al Quran) telah turun dengan kebenaran.Ya Allah ya Tuhan kami, Engkau besarkanlah (kuatkanlah) keinginanku terhadapnya (keinginan untuk mendalami Al-Quran).Dan jadikanlah ia (Al-Quran) sebagai cahaya (penyuluh) bagi penglihatanku dan penawar bagi hatiku.Ya Allah ya Tuhan Kami, Engkau hiasilah (perindahkanlah) lidahku (kata-kataku) dengannya (ajaran-ajaran dalam Al-Quran) dan Engkau cantikkanlah (serikanlah) mukaku dengannya (Al-Quran) .Dan Engkau perkuatkanlah jasadku ini dengannya (Al Quran), dan Engkau beratkanlah (penuhilah) timbanganku (timbangan pahalaku) kerananya (Al Quran).Dan Engkau kurniakanlah aku (kemampuan) agar dapat membacanya (Al Quran) kerana mentaatiMu pada waktu malam dan pada sebelah petang.Dan Engkau himpunkanlah aku (di akhirat nanti) bersama Nabi Muhammad yang dilimpahi rahmat dan sejahtera oleh Allah Taala keatas baginda serta keluarga baginda yang sebaik-baiknya.

Have a good weekend folks.... Allah SWT bless all of us with Rahmat.

Wife are the best gift from Allah to man….yes (don't argue I'm Right)

I was reading an article and attending to my work simultaneously (don’t ask me how I did that). The article that I was reading was about a troubled marriage. I pause, ponder and elaborated on my own on man’s decision to get married. The reason is quiet simple.... “I love you and I want to spend my whole life taking care of you”... or better yet “I want you to be with me all of my life”.. Kc and jojo lyrics all my life “all my life I prayed for someone like you” etc. Now even in movies you see the man will go through hell to get the girl... and the movie ends with the guy kissing her in Paris, on the alter etc etc etc.... The truth is that the man don’t have a clue what they were doing and they get into this marriage thing because at that time they wanted that person who gave them this tingling feeling and they just feel that this lady is the one and I want her. It’s all I want her. What actually happen 10 years down the road and everything collapse?? Is it because the person you want is no longer the person you want?? Is it because you finally found out that your wife is not the one for you anymore?? Well Gents...I am here to tell you that the failure most of the time is because of the man’s inner desire that cannot be satisfied by the man.... ok this is tricky..even weird...

Maybe the wife that we have doesn’t have the standards and criteria that we want but that is life for you. We will never get what we really want. If it is 60% of what we always wanted, to me it is amazing because that is rare. Anyway guys being guys they are bunch of crybabies who wants to be pleased often and they only think of themselves and never about other things. If no cuddle they will chase after the next lady that will provide it to them... This is a stupid stupid man!

I am not perfect and I for one have my flaws. Accepting the person we love is accepting ourselves. Loving another is loving ourselves. Is not easy to be a man’s wife because man for one is never enough. I know ladies are also almost the same but jarang jarang..... once they are committed they are really committed.... but they (women) get tested too... but the impact is not as serious as a man’s test. The reasonable man’s test.... Letak ikan depan kuching and walk away..... ahaks you come back that’s it cloths off.... that’s man for you and what is really crazy and weird is that women fall for the lying sack of shit type of man and yang baik punya husband they betray... go figure.... The bad husband always gets the good wife and the good husband well you fill the blanks .. Even during courting is about the same this young girls will go after the man that will treat them bad but the good guys well they just wear black, sit by the longkang (drain) and play guitar feeling sorry for themselves...

The romanticism of a couple starts with both spouse’s effort to make a difference in their marriage, and lovey expression is a must. It is about knowing the fact that when the beauty, figure, tight and soft skin is gone what do you have only that person’s love... if you don’t want to give 150 or maybe 200% of your love than you are saving it only to loose it because when all is gone that 200% is no longer needed because it was suppose to be given early.

Day after day, his illness got worse. His severe headache made him writhe with pain. Even during this difficult period, he continued to act kindly and gently towards his wives. He asked for permission to stay in one room as he had no strength to visit them one by one in each of their rooms. All his wives agreed and the Messenger, upon him be peace, spent his last days in ‘A’isha’s room.

He respected and honored the rights of his wives even under the most severe conditions. This was the Messenger of God!

1)     Kalau ada pakaian yang koyak, Rasulullah menampalnya sendiri tanpa perlu menyuruh isterinya. Beliau juga memerah susu kambing untuk keperluan keluarga mahupun untuk dijual.


2)    Setiap kali pulang ke rumah, bila dilihat tiada makanan yang sudah siap di masak untuk dimakan, sambil tersenyum baginda menyinsing lengan bajunya untuk membantu isterinya di dapur. Sayidatina 'Aisyah menceritakan 'Kalau Nabi berada di rumah, beliau selalu membantu
urusan rumahtangga.

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3)     Jika mendengar azan, beliau cepat-cepat berangkat ke masjid, dan cepat-cepat pula kembali sesudah selesai sembahyang.'


4)    Pernah baginda pulang pada waktu pagi. Tentulah baginda teramat lapar waktu itu.. Tetapi dilihatnya tiada apa pun yang ada untuk sarapan. Yang mentah pun tidak ada kerana Sayidatina 'Aisyah belum ke pasar. Maka Nabi bertanya, 'Belum ada sarapan ya Khumaira?' (Khumaira adalah panggilan mesra untuk Sayidatina 'Aisyah yang bererti 'Wahai yang kemerah-merahan')
Aisyah menjawab dengan agak serba salah, 'Belum ada apa-apa wahai Rasulullah.'
Rasulullah lantas berkata, 'Jika begitu aku puasa saja hari ini.' tanpa sedikit tergambar rasa kesal di raut wajah baginda.

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5)     Sebaliknya baginda sangat marah tatkala melihat seorang suami sedang memukul isterinya. Rasulullah menegur, 'Mengapa engkau memukul isterimu?'
Lantas soalan itu dijawab dengan agak gementar,
'Isteriku sangat keras kepala! Sudah diberi nasihat dia tetap degil juga, jadi aku pukul lah dia.'
'Aku tidak bertanyakan alasanmu,' sahut Nabi s. a.. w. 'Aku menanyakan mengapa engkau memukul teman tidurmu dan ibu kepada anak-anakmu?'



6)    Pernah baginda bersabda, 'sebaik-baik lelaki adalah yang paling baik, kasih dan lemah lembut terhadap isterinya.' Prihatin, sabar dan tawadhuknya baginda dalam menjadi ketua keluarga langsung tidak sedikitpun menjejaskan kedudukannya sebagai pemimpin umat..


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Nothing we do could prepare us for the end of the day. So get things done right now!! There is no tomorrow for changes. Allah the Most Gracious.

Surat Al-Mu'minūn (The Believers)

Certainly will the believers have succeeded: 23:1

They who are during their prayer humbly submissive 23:2

And they who turn away from ill speech 23:3

And they who are observant of zakah 23:4

And they who guard their private parts 23:5

Except from their wives or those their right hands possess, for indeed, they will not be blamed – 23:6

But whoever seeks beyond that, then those are the transgressors – 23:7

And they who are to their trusts and their promises attentive 23:8

And they who carefully maintain their prayers -23:9

Those are the inheritors 23:10

Who will inherit al-Firdaus. They will abide therein eternally. 23:11

And certainly did We create man from an extract of clay. 23:12

Then We placed him as a sperm-drop in a firm lodging. 23:13

Then We made the sperm-drop into a clinging clot, and We made the clot into a lump [of flesh], and We made [from] the lump, bones, and We covered the bones with flesh; then We developed him into another creation. So blessed is Allah , the best of creators. 23:14

Then indeed, after that you are to die. 23:15

Then indeed you, on the Day of Resurrection, will be resurrected. 23:16