Wife are the best gift from Allah to man….yes (don't argue I'm Right)

I was reading an article and attending to my work simultaneously (don’t ask me how I did that). The article that I was reading was about a troubled marriage. I pause, ponder and elaborated on my own on man’s decision to get married. The reason is quiet simple.... “I love you and I want to spend my whole life taking care of you”... or better yet “I want you to be with me all of my life”.. Kc and jojo lyrics all my life “all my life I prayed for someone like you” etc. Now even in movies you see the man will go through hell to get the girl... and the movie ends with the guy kissing her in Paris, on the alter etc etc etc.... The truth is that the man don’t have a clue what they were doing and they get into this marriage thing because at that time they wanted that person who gave them this tingling feeling and they just feel that this lady is the one and I want her. It’s all I want her. What actually happen 10 years down the road and everything collapse?? Is it because the person you want is no longer the person you want?? Is it because you finally found out that your wife is not the one for you anymore?? Well Gents...I am here to tell you that the failure most of the time is because of the man’s inner desire that cannot be satisfied by the man.... ok this is tricky..even weird...

Maybe the wife that we have doesn’t have the standards and criteria that we want but that is life for you. We will never get what we really want. If it is 60% of what we always wanted, to me it is amazing because that is rare. Anyway guys being guys they are bunch of crybabies who wants to be pleased often and they only think of themselves and never about other things. If no cuddle they will chase after the next lady that will provide it to them... This is a stupid stupid man!

I am not perfect and I for one have my flaws. Accepting the person we love is accepting ourselves. Loving another is loving ourselves. Is not easy to be a man’s wife because man for one is never enough. I know ladies are also almost the same but jarang jarang..... once they are committed they are really committed.... but they (women) get tested too... but the impact is not as serious as a man’s test. The reasonable man’s test.... Letak ikan depan kuching and walk away..... ahaks you come back that’s it cloths off.... that’s man for you and what is really crazy and weird is that women fall for the lying sack of shit type of man and yang baik punya husband they betray... go figure.... The bad husband always gets the good wife and the good husband well you fill the blanks .. Even during courting is about the same this young girls will go after the man that will treat them bad but the good guys well they just wear black, sit by the longkang (drain) and play guitar feeling sorry for themselves...

The romanticism of a couple starts with both spouse’s effort to make a difference in their marriage, and lovey expression is a must. It is about knowing the fact that when the beauty, figure, tight and soft skin is gone what do you have only that person’s love... if you don’t want to give 150 or maybe 200% of your love than you are saving it only to loose it because when all is gone that 200% is no longer needed because it was suppose to be given early.

Day after day, his illness got worse. His severe headache made him writhe with pain. Even during this difficult period, he continued to act kindly and gently towards his wives. He asked for permission to stay in one room as he had no strength to visit them one by one in each of their rooms. All his wives agreed and the Messenger, upon him be peace, spent his last days in ‘A’isha’s room.

He respected and honored the rights of his wives even under the most severe conditions. This was the Messenger of God!

1)     Kalau ada pakaian yang koyak, Rasulullah menampalnya sendiri tanpa perlu menyuruh isterinya. Beliau juga memerah susu kambing untuk keperluan keluarga mahupun untuk dijual.


2)    Setiap kali pulang ke rumah, bila dilihat tiada makanan yang sudah siap di masak untuk dimakan, sambil tersenyum baginda menyinsing lengan bajunya untuk membantu isterinya di dapur. Sayidatina 'Aisyah menceritakan 'Kalau Nabi berada di rumah, beliau selalu membantu
urusan rumahtangga.

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3)     Jika mendengar azan, beliau cepat-cepat berangkat ke masjid, dan cepat-cepat pula kembali sesudah selesai sembahyang.'


4)    Pernah baginda pulang pada waktu pagi. Tentulah baginda teramat lapar waktu itu.. Tetapi dilihatnya tiada apa pun yang ada untuk sarapan. Yang mentah pun tidak ada kerana Sayidatina 'Aisyah belum ke pasar. Maka Nabi bertanya, 'Belum ada sarapan ya Khumaira?' (Khumaira adalah panggilan mesra untuk Sayidatina 'Aisyah yang bererti 'Wahai yang kemerah-merahan')
Aisyah menjawab dengan agak serba salah, 'Belum ada apa-apa wahai Rasulullah.'
Rasulullah lantas berkata, 'Jika begitu aku puasa saja hari ini.' tanpa sedikit tergambar rasa kesal di raut wajah baginda.

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5)     Sebaliknya baginda sangat marah tatkala melihat seorang suami sedang memukul isterinya. Rasulullah menegur, 'Mengapa engkau memukul isterimu?'
Lantas soalan itu dijawab dengan agak gementar,
'Isteriku sangat keras kepala! Sudah diberi nasihat dia tetap degil juga, jadi aku pukul lah dia.'
'Aku tidak bertanyakan alasanmu,' sahut Nabi s. a.. w. 'Aku menanyakan mengapa engkau memukul teman tidurmu dan ibu kepada anak-anakmu?'



6)    Pernah baginda bersabda, 'sebaik-baik lelaki adalah yang paling baik, kasih dan lemah lembut terhadap isterinya.' Prihatin, sabar dan tawadhuknya baginda dalam menjadi ketua keluarga langsung tidak sedikitpun menjejaskan kedudukannya sebagai pemimpin umat..


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Nothing we do could prepare us for the end of the day. So get things done right now!! There is no tomorrow for changes. Allah the Most Gracious.

Surat Al-Mu'minūn (The Believers)

Certainly will the believers have succeeded: 23:1

They who are during their prayer humbly submissive 23:2

And they who turn away from ill speech 23:3

And they who are observant of zakah 23:4

And they who guard their private parts 23:5

Except from their wives or those their right hands possess, for indeed, they will not be blamed – 23:6

But whoever seeks beyond that, then those are the transgressors – 23:7

And they who are to their trusts and their promises attentive 23:8

And they who carefully maintain their prayers -23:9

Those are the inheritors 23:10

Who will inherit al-Firdaus. They will abide therein eternally. 23:11

And certainly did We create man from an extract of clay. 23:12

Then We placed him as a sperm-drop in a firm lodging. 23:13

Then We made the sperm-drop into a clinging clot, and We made the clot into a lump [of flesh], and We made [from] the lump, bones, and We covered the bones with flesh; then We developed him into another creation. So blessed is Allah , the best of creators. 23:14

Then indeed, after that you are to die. 23:15

Then indeed you, on the Day of Resurrection, will be resurrected. 23:16